So you’re ready to hit the ground running and plan to your heart’s content. Your counterpart, on the other hand, does not sense that time is of the essence and prefers to go on living life as usual, while you are embarking on one of the biggest tasks ever – planning your perfect day!
He should want to participate – after all, it’s his wedding day, too! Some grooms may need a bit more help or more prompting. Wedding planning is probably not at the top of their priority list. Here are our tips for getting your partner’s input:
1. “Schedule” a time for wedding planning
Bringing up planning non-stop probably won’t get you very far. Instead, suggest or ask for a time frame that would be good for him to talk about weddings so that he can mentally prepare and get in a wedding planning mood first. Defining a time will also help him to not feel overwhelmed with the process and establish that he has control of the decisions from the start. “When do you want to talk about catering/colors/venues?” rather than just jumping into the details right away is a good approach.
2. Do some of the planning for him
There will be some things that your groom will not have a definitive opinion on, but you will still want his input. Or – there are things that your groom will say he doesn’t care about, that is, until you have already made a decision. Do your research so that when you consult him on the decision, you have some alternative suggestions prepared. Narrow down the selection to things you like – and make sure that the other options are truly things you would be fine with, before you pass the torch onto him. Since you will be prepared coming into the conversation, you may only need to have that one conversation with him about the subject!
3. Delegate tasks
Figure out which aspects of planning are really important to him and give him those tasks to take on or at least get started on. As a starting point, things like choosing and paying for the bride’s wedding ring, the honeymoon, and the rehearsal dinner are all things that are traditionally the responsibility of the groom and/or his family. He should also eventually choose gifts and possibly attire for himself and his groomsmen, or choose his groomsmen for that matter.
Planning is way easier and more fun when more people are involved. Of course your future groom needs to have a hand in creating the perfect day and these tips are a great way to start that process!
We’re all about making the planning process fun, personal, and stress-free.
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